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Let's have a yarn about school attendance
I'm going to start off by saying I've berly been at school, my whole schooling journey I've rarely gone for a week straight. I've always battled with 'school refusal' I'm not a big fan of this term, it makes me feel as if it's something I do on purpose instead of the school system failing to accommodate for me.
With year 9 now behind me although I feel extremely proud of myself, I still have an awful voice saying I didn't really do that great. It dose make me rather sad that even at a school that cares about my needs and dose there best to accommodate for me, I still didn't have very good attendance. Things that stop me from going can include but not limited to:
anxiety, I simply can't go, a dreadful stomach ache worried about the many possibilities that could unfold.
Depression, if I'm feeling depressed then it's just not safe for me to put myself through school. Also a massive lack of motivation, seeing no positive future ahead.
Bullying, being emotionally abused, body shamed, feeling unsafe around classmates.
Bullying from teachers, this one is from my primary school years when my teachers would shout at me and punish me for not being like the other kids.
Headaches and migraines, I have irlens syndrome which is a serviere light sensitivity disorder. Most classrooms have fluesent lights which can case me to suddenly have a fever.
Pain, I'm hyper mobile (EDS) so I'm almost always in a lot of pain and have to sit in 'inpolight positions' to be at least a bit comfortable.
Masking, it's exhausting pretending to be nurotipcal whilst learning.
Overwhelmed by the school work, once again with the irlens syndrome, I don't learn the same way the rest of the class does so I get left far behind even further if I miss days.
It's annoying how difficult school is being different (autistic, nurodivce, disabled, queer) mind you I'm all of those things.
I just want you to know that if your learning, no matter how and how often, I'm proud, so proud of you and know there is at least one person who understands and accepts you (me).
If you have a friend or classmate or child who struggles with school attendance, let them know that you are proud of them because it's so hard for them believe me. They are trying so hard and most likely nobody even acknowledges that.
Ok this is a message for any parents possibly reading this; if you think that its hard for you, witch it is, the other parents seem so perfect. Just imagine how difficult it is for your child. Please let them stay home if they need it. It's not normal for kids to want to stay home so bad they scream, kick, bite, sobb. They shouldn't have to wish they where hurt. No child should. Let them learn how they need to. Also get them a diagnosis because there current labels are things like stupid, the R slur, weird, dumb all these horrid things that they'll believe.
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